People · Respect and consent

Consent, explained

Consent is a clear, freely given, ongoing yes from someone who is of legal age, sober and alert, and not pressured. You need it every time, for each activity, and anyone can take it back at any point, including by freezing, pulling away or going quiet. Clothing, flirting, past yeses, dating, silence and a yes squeezed out by guilt or threats are not consent. If you're unsure, stop and check in. If something happened to you, it isn't your fault: RAINN's hotline is 800-656-4673, 24/7.

Easy10 min to readFreeChecked October 2, 2026

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Your school's Title IX office and RAINN's number saved in your phone

What to know

Know the definition. Consent is a mutual agreement that's clear, voluntary, and communicated without pressure, manipulation or fear. Everyone involved must be of legal age, sober and alert, and not under coercion or threat. Source: RAINN¹
Ask. A simple "Is this okay?" before moving forward. You don't have to guess. Source: RAINN¹
Look for an enthusiastic yes, not just the absence of a no: "Yes, I want to," relaxed engagement, and comfort. Source: RAINN¹
Listen to words and body language. Respect a no even if it's quiet, indirect or nonverbal. Source: RAINN¹
Check in as things progress. Yes to one thing isn't yes to everything, and yes last time isn't yes now. Source: RAINN¹
Stop the moment someone freezes, pulls away, goes silent or says stop. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, even in the middle. Source: RAINN¹

Watch out Someone who is underage, asleep, unconscious, intoxicated or manipulated into saying yes can't consent. Source: RAINN¹

Consent is / consent isn't

From RAINN. Source: RAINN¹

Consent is	Consent isn't
Freely given, with no pressure or threats	A yes from guilt, fear or intimidation
Informed: everyone understands what they're agreeing to	Assumed from clothing, flirting or going home with someone
Clear: no guessing	Silence or not resisting
Ongoing: given each time, for each activity	A past yes, or being in a relationship
Able to be withdrawn at any time	Someone too drunk or high to make informed decisions

What pressure looks like

Guilt-tripping or shaming Source: RAINN²
Threatening to end the relationship Source: RAINN²
Repeatedly ignoring a no Source: RAINN²
Pressuring someone who's intoxicated or vulnerable Source: RAINN²
Using fear, anger, sadness or crying to change someone's answer Source: RAINN²

If someone is pressuring you

Trust your gut. You don't need a reason to say no or owe anyone an explanation. Source: RAINN²
Set up a code word with a friend in advance, like a text that means "call me" or "come get me". Source: RAINN²
Know your exit: where the doors are, a bathroom where you can make a call. Source: RAINN²
It's okay to make an excuse to get out, like saying you feel sick. Source: RAINN²
Get support afterward, even if nothing physical happened. Source: RAINN²

If you see something: C.A.R.E.

Create a distraction: "Hey, let's grab some fresh air". Source: RAINN³
Ask directly and privately: "Do you need help?" "Do you want to leave with me?" Source: RAINN³
Rally others: friends, a bartender, security, an RA. If it feels unsafe, call 911 and stay close. Source: RAINN³
Extend support: offer to stay or walk them home, listen without judging, share the hotline. Source: RAINN³
Never put your own safety at risk. Source: RAINN³

See it done

Video by AMAZE Org Nonprofit

Consent Explained: What Is It?

Watch on YouTube: Consent Explained: What Is It?

2016 · Checked October 3, 2026

AMAZE's short version matches ours: a clear yes every time, and anyone can change their mind.

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If it doesn't work

If something happened without your consent, it wasn't your fault, whether you froze, didn't fight back or were pressured. Source: RAINN¹ Call 800-656-HOPE (4673), chat at RAINN.org/hotline, or text HOPE to 64673. It's free, confidential and 24/7, in English and Spanish. Source: RAINN¹
A medical provider can check for injuries, infections and pregnancy. The hotline can help you find a local hospital or clinic that cares for survivors, and a forensic exam can protect your health and preserve evidence. Source: RAINN⁵
On campus, know where to find your Title IX office, a confidential advocate, student health and counseling before you need them. Source: RAINN⁴

Good to know

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Why it matters on campus

A 2019 campus climate survey found that 13% of undergraduates experienced rape or sexual assault after enrolling, about 26% of undergraduate women and 7% of men. Source: RAINN⁴

Dating doesn't change it

Being in a relationship isn't consent. The CDC counts forcing or trying to force a current or former partner into a sex act, sexual touching or sexting when they don't or can't consent as sexual violence. Source: CDC⁶

Online counts too

Sharing intimate images without consent is a form of sexual violence. If someone threatens or exploits you online, save the evidence and tell someone you trust. Source: RAINN⁴

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Sources

RAINN Consent 101
RAINN If someone is pressuring or coercing you
RAINN Step in with CARE
RAINN Campus sexual violence: prevention and response
RAINN Getting medical help after sexual assault
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention About intimate partner violence

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