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Bouncing back after a setback

After a layoff, breakup or failed class: tell someone who listens; protect sleep, regular meals, exercise and go easy on caffeine; break the problem into pieces you can act on; and do one concrete thing today. Laid off through no fault of your own? File for unemployment in the state where you worked right away, because the first check usually takes two to three weeks. Skip numbing it with alcohol or drugs. If the stress interferes with daily life or won't lift, talk therapy works; in crisis, call or text 988.

Easy10 min to readFreeChecked October 2, 2026

You'll need

  • A pen and paper, or a notes app
  • One person you trust
  • For a layoff: your last employer's address and your work dates

What to know

  1. Reach out to someone who listens. The APA says connecting with understanding people reminds you you're not alone. Source: APA1 NIMH also suggests leaning on friends or family who help you cope in a positive way. Source: NIMH2
  2. Take care of the basics. Exercise, eat healthy regular meals, keep a sleep routine, and cut back on caffeine. Source: NIMH2 Sleep, food, water and movement help your body handle stress. Source: APA1
  3. Write it down. NIMH suggests keeping a journal, and noticing and challenging negative, unhelpful thoughts. Source: NIMH2 If you catch yourself catastrophizing, swap in a more balanced thought. Source: APA1
  4. Ask what you can do about it, and break big problems into manageable pieces. Source: APA1 List three pieces you control, and put a day next to each.
  5. Do one small thing today that moves you toward a goal. Laid off? Spend an hour on your resume. Source: APA1
  6. Look back at past hard times. What helped then? Source: APA1
Watch out Numbing it with alcohol or drugs is like putting a bandage on a deep wound. Source: APA1

If you lost your job

  • Unemployment insurance pays cash benefits to eligible workers who lose a job through no fault of their own, which in most states means a lack of available work. Source: DOL3
  • File with the unemployment program in the state where you worked, as soon as possible. Depending on the state, you can file online, by phone or in person. Source: DOL3
  • Have your former employers' addresses and your work dates ready, and give complete, correct information so your claim isn't delayed. Source: DOL3
  • Expect the first payment about two to three weeks after you file. Source: DOL3
  • You also have to meet your state's work and wage requirements during a "base period," in most states the first four of the last five completed calendar quarters. Source: DOL3 Find your state's office with CareerOneStop's Unemployment Benefits Finder.
  • Money tight? Ask your landlord, utilities or card companies whether they can adjust due dates, and use your emergency fund. That's what it's for. Source: CFPB5

Stress or something more?

From NIMH's fact sheet. Source: NIMH2

StressAnxiety
CauseUsually a response to something outside you, like a big test or an argumentYour internal reaction to stress, even with no current threat
How longGoes away once the situation is resolvedPersistent dread that doesn't go away
EffectCan push you to meet a deadline, or cost you sleepInterferes with how you live your life

Both can cause worry, tension, headaches and lost sleep. Get help if symptoms interfere with everyday life, make you avoid things, or seem always present. Source: NIMH2

Today's three moves

  • Text or call one person
  • Eat a real meal and move your body
  • Do one piece of the problem: file a claim, email a professor, update one section of your resume

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If it doesn't work

  • Stuck for weeks, or struggling with daily tasks? The APA says that's a reason to get professional help. Source: APA1
  • Stress or anxiety that won't go away can be treated with talk therapy, medication or both. Many people benefit from both. Source: NIMH2
  • In crisis or thinking about hurting yourself? Call or text 988, or chat at 988lifeline.org. Source: NIMH2

Good to know

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It's ordinary

Research shows resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. Anyone can build it. Source: APA1

Distress is part of it

Being resilient doesn't mean you won't feel pain. Source: APA1

Try a relaxation app

NIMH suggests apps with deep breathing, visualization or mindfulness exercises. Source: NIMH2

Take it with you

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Sources

  1. American Psychological Association Building your resilience
  2. National Institute of Mental Health I'm so stressed out! fact sheet
  3. U.S. Department of Labor Unemployment insurance
  4. CareerOneStop Unemployment Benefits Finder
  5. Consumer Financial Protection Bureau An essential guide to building an emergency fund

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